Author: fence builder

My vision is to restore the dignity of family

Will You Marry Me?

There is a day in which all couples in love await eagerly, the day to the tie the knot. Depending on the variety of cultures and traditions the man asks the woman for her hand in marriage. After he got her consent, the journey to marriage begin. However, the journey reshifts to wedding.

A time of engagement is like the blueprint of a building. It is time to carefully look on the details as all the details of the building is on the blue print. As all that is required to build the building is found on the blue print, so is the time of engagement for our marriage.

So, don’t you agree that a time of engagement is a time to learn about marriage, a time to plan carefully, a time to analyze the relationship? Don’t we need Rabbis

for all these?

In the beginning …

As the Book says, “In the beginning God” what would happen if the conception, the beginning and the journey of marriage would be established on and tied up with the perspective , “In the beginning God”?

I mean:

“In the beginning God” to get acquainted;

“In the beginning God” to fell in love;

“In the beginning God” to get engaged;

“In the beginning God” to get married;

“In the beginning God” to have children;

All in all, what if the perspective “In the beginning God”

find priority when we talk , eat , fight , reconcile , plan and in all our day-to-day interaction?

Much less divorce !

Much less generational distructions!

Prosperous nations!

If you ask me what makes be so sure, I will present:-

Heaven and earth;

The Sun and the Moon ;

The Stars;

ፍቺ ባልነገሰ!
ትውልድ ባልመከነ!
ሀገር በበለፀገ!

ነበር።

ማስረጃውስ ካላችሁኝ:_

ሰማይና ምድር
ፀሐይና ጨረቃ
ከዋክብት

ምስክሮች ናቸው እላለዋ!

The Story

One man and one woman met, fall in love, got engaged and finally tied the knot. Few days after their big day they were surprised by confusing and disappointing things. The beautiful garden they expected turned out to seem like hell. They felt like a stranger in their own home. I think it would have helped them a great deal if there was an institution thay couldgive them a pre-marital class. This would have helped to save their marriage from hurting long before it began.

The Relationship that Matters Most

I grew up hearing that “Man is a social animal”. Though I don’t agree with the honourable man being part of the animal speices, I agree that relationship is one of the inevitable and basic necessity of life.

The first relationship that determines the course of other relationship is Man’s relationship with God.

The second relationship that matters most as long as he/she is on earth is his/her relationship with his/her wife/husband.

How many of us value our relationship with our spouses? How many of us forsake our spouses interest to pursue our career? How many of us trade our sacred vow to our spouses for mere sexual satisfaction?

Do you see your wife as a rival than a companion? Do you see your husband as your defender or your attacker?

Who put such thoughts in our world? Who have contributed to such philosophy? Why are we waging war on ourselves? Why are we passing on broken homes, broken hearts and instable vows to our children?

Just think about it!

What Do Women Want?

I remember an old movie starred by Mel Gibson. The movie is about a miraculous gift of hearing all what goes on the ladies mind. What a talent!

What do women really want? An abortion right, equal pay, divorce, same-sex marriage?

So, why are women still stressed all over the world, even in places in which Women’s rights are endorsed? This is evident by the availability of so many products and services promising to help women get rid of stresses.

Humanitarian giants claim to have the talent to hear and understand all that goes in the mind of women. Various projects have been implemented to provide for the physical, psychological, economical and social needs of women.

But, is that all women need?

The concept of empowering women seems to wage war with men. The base of such trainings is usually rooted with competition aganist men. Marriage is displayed as the imprisonment for women.

I think we need to carefully understand what women need before breaking homes and breaking families.

Healthy Family Healthy Nations!

Huge Clash Among Generations!

In my great, great, great, …, grandparents’ days’ things were pretty much different from what I see and experience today. Ouch! Did I just begin my story without introducing myself? Well, let’s just say I am a person whose genealogy dates long ago. So, I prefer to introduce my great, great, great, …, grandparents instead. They were the famous Adam and Eve.
Whaaaat! Yep, I am certainly their descendant. Anyways, I didn’t introduce you to them just to brag about them. Yet, I would like to share the magnificent story they told me. The story goes like this …
“Once upon a time, we lived in a beautiful garden called Eden. There is no other place like it. It was full of light and life; peace and love filled the atmosphere. All the animals, domestic and wild, birds and fishes, doodle worms and frogs lived in harmony. No evil, no hatred, no fear. God passed by every day.”
Then, my great, great, great, …, grandpa Adam continued,
“I came in to the garden first and I enjoyed the fresh fruits, the beautiful flowers and trees, the animals and butterflies. God gave me the responsibility of tending all of these. I was a very busy man, but alone. One day when I woke up, I saw an amazing creature coming towards me, Eve. I was blessed with a wife who looks like me. Now, I have someone to talk to, a companion, a confidant, a friend.  And most of all, she is going to give me babies who look like us. “
Eve looked at him with a loving eye and added,
” I remember the first day I saw your great, great, great, …, grandfather.  The moment our eyes met, I knew I can trust him. There was no fear, no shame, no doubt or any other evil thought between us. Rather, we begin the journey to oneness till …”
I could go on with the story, but neither time nor this page is enough to do so.
By now, you may be wondering where I am going with all these. I shared my memory with you because I wanted to remind you what marriage was like in my great, great, great, …, grandparents’ days’. But now, our story is quite different.
Marriage is viewed as a battle field, a place of war, a futile stage for tournaments.
Marriage is viewed as part of the entertainment, as a buffet with infinite dishes, a beach to lie on till spring lasts.
Marriage is viewed as a ceremony, a ritual, a process.
Marriage is viewed as a mere contract, a business deal, a vocation
All in all, we no longer see marriage or the family unit the way my great, great, great, …, grandparents’ did.  But, how did we end up here? What happened to the good old vows, “till death do as apart”? Who discarded words like love, submission, commitment, sacrifice, hope and faith from our relationships, conversations, homes, schools, churches, policies, laws, and cultures? Don’t we need them back on the picture? Why keep on paying the price and pass it on to our children? Don’t you think you and me should do something about it or are we going to sit hand folded or quite the contrary, give hand to discard more words?
As a result, today’s societies are one big family with broken fences comprised by broken homes. I am sure you can imagine what a home with broken fences could be. Obviously, full of intruders, full of scared kids, full of garbage. So, I am deeply convicted that healthy families are the pillars to healthy nations. What about you?
Fence builder
Health family Healthy nations!

Where Did This Word ‘…’ Go

It has been days since I planned to post my first blog thinking and  wondering , “Where do I start?”

Don’t get me wrong! I did not began blogging just for blogging sake. I am rather a fence builder equipped with tools to mend a huge broken fence in my nation and generation.

So, I begin today by asking, “Where did this word go?”

The term family starting from its root term marriage seem to have disappeared or buried under other issues.

This word is rarely found in the ‘I do’ speeches of political candidates. It is not in the agenda of the world ranking  development agencies. It is neither respectfully coined in the entertaiment industry.

But why…?